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Just a thought I had today…

twalkuf — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:13:52 +0000

I think it’s funny how some people feel like they can screw over the opposite sex for years then expect their dream companion to just fall into place whenever they are ready to settle down. A lot of people miss out on a great spouse because they are too immature to realize what a gem they have or are too focused on ‘playing the game’. GROW UP PEOPLE!

I am not ranting. Just jotting my thoughts on this since a lot of folks are bringing the topic up.

Folks keep asking me why I’m not married.

1. I’m in no rush

2. Because I don’t have to be

3. My BOAZ hasn’t found me yet

I’ve only ‘dated’ 2 men in my life. Put my heart in it and everything (Surprising) only to be let down at the end. That part of it sucks, but everything I’ve learned from it has made me such a better person. I know more about what I like and what I don’t like. Things I stand my ground on and things that I don’t mind compromising.

I know that I am a good woman so all I can really do is let life run its course. Some of my family members feel that, because I am getting close to my 30s, that magically I’m supposed to get married in the next year or so and start my own tribe. If it happens, cool. If not, I really don’t think my life will start some type of downward spiral.

I’ve lived. I’ve loved. I know that there is a wonderful man that was made to love me as I was made to love him. Therefore, I’m going to continue to hide myself in GOD so that my future king will have to seek him to find me. I’m worth the wait, and so is HE.

On the road again…

twalkuf — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:39:19 +0000

To my friends….keep me and my friends in prayer as we travel to ATLANTA tonight for a church convention. I will blog about it all weekend long!

R.I.P. Chris Henry

twalkuf — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:35:18 +0000

I will probably blog on this topic later when the investigation is over I have let my head settle. I have such love for the young, gifted, and black male and it truly tears at my heart when one loses his life so senselessly.

“You Are A Free Man, Congratulations”

twalkuf — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:27:13 +0000

These words were uttered today by a judge in Bartow, FL. Who was he referring to? James Bain, age 54. Mr. Bain was cleared by DNA testing in the case of the rape of a 9 year old boy in 1974. Yep, 1974….35 years ago…let it sink in. I didn’t even exist 35 years ago and neither did most of my friends. 35 years, sitting in jail, going through God knows what, for something that you didn’t do. In fact, Bain is the 246th person in the United States to get exonerated by DNA evidence. Of the 246 released, he has served the longest time in prison. Who/What is to blame for such injustice? I can’t even imagine on how much of life he has missed out on. He used a cell phone for the first time today. I used one in the early 90s that was the size of a VCR but a cell phone nonetheless. How should he be compensated? Should he be compensated? Will his experience in prison make him a threat to society? These are just a few of the questions that will be answered over time.

But you know what really made my heart smile? When he said, “I’m not angry,” when questioned by reporters after a brief hearing following his release. Now I don’t know about you but I call myself a Christian and I still don’t know if I would have that type of humbleness if I were in his shoes. That statement alone made me check myself. With that being said, please know that Mr. Bain and his family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that they will let the past be the past and build the best future that they possibly can!

http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/12/17/florida.dna.exoneration/index.html

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!

twalkuf — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:48:40 +0000

I wanna wish my little sister a very happy birthday! I love you sis….(we’re getting old tho) :-/

13% Gangster

Decisions, Decisions…

twalkuf — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:40:51 +0000

Please read this story…

http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/11/18/georgia.soldier.mom/index.html

I’m not sure how I feel about this one yet. I understand that she is obligated to serve her country, but seriously…was she supposed to just leave some baby bottles and pop-tarts at the house and just and hope that her 10-month old would get the hint for a year?

I’m not really sure how I feel about her mom’s backing out on the deal either. Raising a child is difficult (I’ve heard) but it wasn’t a permanent thing (barring her being KIA). I have a busy life but, I wouldn’t leave ANY family member hanging like that…

Aren’t you too grown for that?

twalkuf — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 19:19:16 +0000

I was doing my weekly grocery store run this morning and when I got in the fruit juice aisle I saw a man (that looked to be in his mid-30s) with his pants sagging ALL THE WAY to his knees, boxer shorts showing….with a tall-tee tucked into his boxers. Call me crazy but that look went out a LONGGGGG time ago. I really wish folks cared more about how they looked in person. Honestly, do you think anyone is going to take you seriously when you are out in public? I believe first impressions are lasting impressions. When you come of adult age, PLEASE look the part. I’m not saying walk around in a 3-piece suit or anything. Just try not to look like anything that would scare a small child…sheesh!

Misery loves company…

twalkuf — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:48:38 +0000

Lately I have been coming across people that really have an issue with life! It seems like EVERY little thing puts them in an irreversible funk. Bad breakups, work-related stress, forgetting to set your DVR for Grey’s Anatomy. All of these things are enough to make you scream. But is it enough to make you swear off being an approachable human being? I mean, we all have problems, but at the end of the day we have life. LOOK AT THE BIG PICTURE! Don’t sweat the small stuff. Lingering on the negative will only break you down in the long run! I am all about progression. Always strive to level up in your life, and if something is hindering you from getting to the next level, LET IT GO!

Have We, As A Nation, Been Desensitized?

twalkuf — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 15:44:11 +0000

Mass killings in America have increasingly been in the news over the past 20 years. After this week’s massacre at Ft. Hood, I wondered, WHY? What makes another, seemingly normal, human being think that is it okay to slaughter innocent people.

Hmmm…Is it race-related? A few years back I was told that it was a “white thing”, that black folks don’t just up and kill a bunch of people. I thought it and the person seemed to have made a decent point. From what I had scene at that point, most mass murderers were white middle-aged men. Not anymore. The D.C.(Beltway) sniper terrorized the city for nearly 3 weeks in October 2002 before being apprehended. He was a black man. Ervin Lupoe, also black, killed his wife and 5 children after losing his job. Hmmm….so it’s not race…so what is it? Age?

I started working with children when I was 16. At first just to earn some extra cash, later on, because I wanted to make a difference. 6 and 7 year old boys AND girls would tell me what movies they watched with their parents and would break out in extreme fits of laughter after describing how one of the characters had been killed. I often wondered if their exposure to such graphic imagery would negatively impact their future. I grew up with Sesame Street and GhostWriter and anything on ESPN being my favorite shows. My 11 year-old cousin’s favorite show??? CSI: Miami…for the storyline? NO. She likes the different ways folks get killed. Now…don’t get me wrong. I LOVE HORATIO and his slow-talking self, and as a 27 year-old, I think I am way more equipped to handle the show. But an 11 year-old? One would think that if such a young, impressionable mind is exposed to shows such as this and take a liking to it eventually some damage will be done. After Columbine, school shootings seemed to pop up in the news every couple of months………but then again…BTK killer killed over a from his late 20s to his mid-40s…Ray and Faye Copeland didn’t start killing until their 70s…so maybe age isn’t the tie…

I don’t think it is religion…Muslims kill, Baptists kill, Atheists kill….

The jury is still out on why Army Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan, 39, woke up a few days ago and decided to murder his peers. Whether it was religion, fear of deportation or some underlying mental issues I still believe there is still a common trigger…we just need to figure out what it is…

Hello world!

twalkuf — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 04:34:10 +0000

I’m backkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk!!!!! After a yearlong hiatus I have decided to return to blogging. I’ve lived. I’ve learned. I’ve gained and lost friends. Honestly, I can say that through it all I have become a much better person. I am working on starting my own business and pondering getting my MBA. I’ve realigned my walk with Christ. I have adjusted my view on love and what it entails. Gimme a few weeks to settle back into my antics and I’m sure convo will flow just like the good ole’ days…Stay Tuned!